Mirka Federer herself was a tennis player before she committed herself to work as Roger Federer’s manager. She had left her career after being undergone a surgery, of course. Many articles say that she got realized of her work, and she decided to help Federer in his profession. Today no one can dare to forget to mention her name while saying about the phenomenal success of the Swiss.
She was the Vice President for Community and External Affairs at the University of Chicago Hospitals. And now she is the first lady of United States of America, Michelle Obama, who had left her successful career and involved herself in campaigning for her husband Barack Obama, during the 2008 presidential elections.
There are ‘N’ number of examples from the celebrities’ side. I personally know a few women, who have left/changed their professions after their marriage. I’m a small part of this universe, still I know little such kind of women, and if you look at the whole number that is known to every body in this universe, no doubt you would be more than surprised.
((Keeping every thing aside that I have written below, I congratulate these proud ladies. It gives certain pleasure when I read about them))
And now please don’t get me wrong. I completely agree about the women who have been successfully traveling in both personal and professional sides. But my concern is about the percentage of such women and also the percentage of such families that allow them to be so.
Every profession demands the same:
I remember many of my male colleagues saying that ‘Teaching is the best profession, which a woman can choose’. But I never understood ‘why is it so?’ They may have had the idea that it would be an easier job, just going to college/school, coming back and staying with your family, children, etc. I too have the opinion that ‘Teaching’ is a great profession, but let me tell you, it is one and the same for both male and female. Every profession demands you in a similar way, irrespective of whether you are a male or female. When you love the work you do, you have got no reservations at all.
Its not that the name of the profession that makes your job easy, it is the nature of the profession that you understand, and demands of it that you presume, probably would tell you what the divinity that lies in every profession.
Who can shed voice for the desire of a girl’s parents?
There is no difference in a way how a female student thinks about her ambitions to that of a male student does. Every body has got same ambitions in a way or other. Just imagine yourself as a father who enters a school to join your boy child or girl child in school. Then your intention behind joining them in school would be similar. It is always to see him/her reaching heights in life.
As a girl’s father, may be you would feel at some corner of your heart that she should become a good wife in her future, and I wonder as a boy’s father if you would not feel that your son should become a good husband in future!! You will, wont you?
Every parent has the same ambitions about their children, irrespective of whether it is a boy or girl. Then why a girl’s parent shall restrict his dreams of seeing his daughter reaching heights in professional life after her marriage? Or why is he being restricted? I don’t agree if you say that it is being written like that somewhere unseen.
Is it that, parents who have got a girl child shall be clapping always for their son-in-law’s success?
Is it that, girls who have dreamed about their careers in their childhood shall forget all and do the house keeping?
Is it that, woman is just meant for the saying “There is a woman behind every successful man”?
Let me tell you...
I repeat, please don’t get me wrong by thinking that I’m looking at one side of the coin. Every coin has got two sides, and I admit, each of them has got equal importance. I completely agree with the people who may show me different examples of the women, who have been achieving their personal and professional stunts successfully. But then, I will ask them to tell about the men behind them, and my concern is why can’t most of the men be like that? Similarly, why can’t most of the women be like that?
Is it again the awareness that is to be spoon-feeded from their childhood itself, or they should be matured enough to understand what their life partner desires to be?
Now I will try to see another side of the coin. You know, it is the greatest pleasure when you leave your dreams for the person you love. It is the ultimate sacrifice, when she accompanies her husband and her children in their success at the rate of her own ambitions. It is the divinity of any human heart.
May be that heart is only of a woman!!
May be she the only person who can do it!!
May be it is impossible for a man to give what his woman gives!!
But you know what, from a woman point of view, it hurts.
Though it is just for a fraction of second, it hurts.
Even it is giving you the immense pleasure, it hurts.
You may call her a great person, it still hurts.
It hurts at the very back and unknown fields of her heart.
There is a saying- “You get what you deserve, not what you desire”
If it is true, does a woman deserve it?
If she deserves it, why shall she?
I’m not here to say the ideas to avoid its happening. It happens every now and then, only when a couple is not having a mutual respect and understanding. Defining the understanding between couples is not in my horizons. None of my words can define it, I know. It is truly depends upon them, because no two are alike in this universe.
PS: Please see this post as a generic one, by looking at the percentage of women those are being hurt. Few examples can not answer lakhs of heart beats.
It is pleasure to bring myself back on this stage after this short break. Hope, now I have given you every thing that I had missed in these days. Thanks for this long read. See you in the comments section. Please be there, being a reader.