Jan 8, 2010

Staying Away From Home?

When I was in a NCC camp during my schooling, I was made aware that one of the senior cadets was upset and she had been crying. I along with my friends reached her room, where she was surrounded by a group of people. After being asked for a while, she expressed that she had been staying away from her parents for three months, as she had to stay in hostel.

I was in my 9th standard, and the duration of “Three Months” sounded like a hell for me. I wondered how she could have survived for at least three months!! I could not imagine myself living in the same situation. I must stress, I could not have answered myself, if I had not been to hostel after my 10th class.

Intermediate+B.Tech+M.Tech+1.5 year job, it is totally nine and a half years for me now that I have been away from home. The regular visits to home must be considered though. As the time progressed, the duration between two visits has been regularly increasing, that’s where my concern lies.

During B.Tech, I used to go home for every twenty days at least. Of course, that too was only for a day, or two. But once I joined my M.Tech in Delhi, for the first time, I had to stay away for at least 6 months every time. And now during these days at Pune, it is getting in very longer once again.

It is not only about me, I believe that I can speak for many people who have been staying away from home to satisfy different purposes. Be it the students, be it the soldiers, be it the professionals, be it the scientists, be it the astronauts, and be it any purpose that demands someone to stay away.

Any ways, staying away from home tests your strengths to face the real world, with the personality that your circumstances made you, that your parents taught you, and where your knowledge keeps you. Whatever may be the way you are, never forget to make some time out of your busy schedule to make your parents aware that you love them, that you care for them, and that you breathe for a better you.

I do agree that there are orphans. But when I say parents, it need not always be the mom and dad. Parents are the important persons in one’s life, and everybody in this world must have an important person, be it parents, be it friends, be it someone else who supported them. So, the same affection and love are applicable here.

PS: I’m very sorry that I have been staying away from all of your wonderful blogs. Please excuse me. I have been spending very busy time, and could not bring myself to your lovely worlds. I thank you one and all for reading me faithfully. I will try to do reply your comments soon. And will definitely try to visit you blogs soon. Thank You.

55 comments:

Suree said...

i remember the moment when my mother started crying when leaving me in the hostel at the beginning of my Btech.Though i didn't shed a tear, i too had some feeling of loosing something.

But From them i will make sure that i go home for once in evry month.

I know how parents will miss us .

My mom cried for almost a week when my bro left to hostel in his btech as both of us were out of town for studies /job.
But now she also got used to it.

A New Beginning said...

Beautiful post..I can never imagine being away from my parents coz Ive never lived in a hostel...my mother has and she has beautiful memories to share... according to her it makes a person more independent and self reliant...But one does miss ones parents.
May you have a beautiful year ahead and a lovely time with your loved ones ..I wish you all the very best!

deeps said...

i'd been away from home n parents n my home state for over a decade or so ... it s too long to be away i know ... but that also taught me a lot life-enriching lessons ... and side by side missed .... that... oops
yeaa... perceptions ... viewpoints differs.. :-P

sulagna said...

i have been away from my parents for 9 years ya...and they stay very far way ..travelling means lot of time money and leaves from ofc...

i soo get where you coming from!

An Ordinary Gal said...

I m so scared if ever i have to leave my parents...God but one day I have to...Beautiful Post :)

Pallav said...

Beautiful post.. staying from parents..i cannt even dream...
hats off to u...

Seriously...

The Holy Lama said...

Just another phase of life. Soon, you would be sending your kids to hostel and feel the pangs that your mother did.
Just make sure, you don't lose ties altogether.

WELCOME TO MY WORLD OF POETRY: said...

A lovely post, All the best for a fantastic New Year. Have fun.

Yvonne.

Vittaldas Prabhu said...

I know how hard it is to stay away from home. Of course, you can speak for a good bunch of people. With the advent of the IT industry many have had to resort to this need of staying away to build up a good career.

You have presented very nice thoughts here. I thoroughly enjoyed reading it as I could relate to every word written.

Chocolate Lover said...

That feeling.. is so frightening :(
I can't even imagine to stay away from my parents !

Snow White said...

nice post dear..i have never been away from home..cant imagine it too

Vinay Sharma said...

adorable post .. and nice blog overall ..

.. came here for the first time ..

SiD said...

I am feeling the same feeling for the next one more week....:D

coming to pune...yay...:D

Ria said...

yeah made me feel good in a way that i hav never stayed away from my parents...i m so damn dependent on them that i dread the day i'll get married.

Sandy said...

I liked your post..especially bcoz I hv been away from my family since long 8 months now and 2 more months got to go..

Jus found ur post as my feelings..

Also utterly agree with your thought re test of strenghts to face real world being isolated.

Keep writing..

Cheers!!

angel said...

you have been awarded in my blog :)

angel said...

my first semester of engineering i stayed in hostel.. everything was great but somehow i could nt adjust and couldnt last even a few weeks.. My college is just 80kms from blore.. but it was so hard for me..infact i could nt do it!! but thats when i realised what an important role our family plays in our lives...the fact is everybody needs somebody.. parents,friends,lover anyone..

Jaunty anima said...

It must be tough..haven't experienced it my self though..but it makes one independent, doesn't it? One has to learn to live on his/her own..So sooner the better!!:)

Sunakshi said...

Its been really long,how are you doing sis?

beautiful post btw,worth readinglike always! :)

anupama said...

Dear Prams,
Good Evening!
Wishing you A Wonderful and Happy New Year!
You have written a touching post,dear!My heart fills when I think of my parents.
Posts after posts if I write also,still there will be volumes left to write about the love,care,concern and sacrifices showered and shown.
Right now an important oerson is moving away and I have to make my mind stronger. :)this is life.
Wishing you a cool night,
Sasneham,
Anu

Bobby said...

Hi akka!
I know how it is like to be staying alone and away from home...
I am outta India no with my dad n mom after 2 years of separation!

Vani said...

I've been staying away from home for 3 years now-ever since I started my University..This is the first time I ever had to stay away..And Oh My!! I still cant believe that I survived..
As for keeping in touch- I never get much holidays here..so only get to go home once in 6 months or so..Nd doesnt even get enough tym to talk vit my parents throug phone :(

Anya said...

Very touching post
it reminds me on my youngher years
;)

Dhiman said...

staying away from home is difficult yes but also I feel everybody at some point of time should do it the earlier the better experience and also it brings you closer to your loved ones...atleast I felt that way staying away from home ofcourse I did miss my folks but talking to them everyday made up for some ground lost....

Anya said...

Hi Prams
You must deleted that bleu chinese comment its spam and its not good for your pc & blog !!!!!
I just want to tell you :-)

chandra said...

hai pramoda ,
your post is very impressive and touching.i am thinking that why god has given intelligence to human beings and this intelligence is only the cause for all sins and sorrows.
other side because of our intelligence we are enjoying all comforts.

chandra said...

hai pramoda ,
your post is very impressive and touching.i am thinking that why god has given intelligence to human beings and this intelligence is only the cause for all sins and sorrows.
other side because of our intelligence we are enjoying all comforts.

hemanth said...

ahhh!!!!!!!!
It reallyyy hurts..
It hurts more when the time comes to go away from home again after we go home and stayed there some time. It also hurts me more now to enter into room for the first time as I come from home.........

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Suree, yeah, with experiences, we get adjusted to every thing, mostly..

thank you.

Being Pramoda... said...

A New begining,

yeah.. its so true.. very well said by your mom...cheers yaa

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Deeps, yeah they differ..:)

Thank Yaa.. nice to know abt u ..

Being Pramoda... said...

HI Sulagna,

nice yaa.. be happy..thank you..wish you the best

Being Pramoda... said...

An ordinay gal..

thanks gal.. :) have a nice day..

Being Pramoda... said...

hi pallav, yeah, i have to ..:(..any ways thanks yaa

Being Pramoda... said...

Holy lama,

hey..always i get wonderful thoughst frm you..and you have ur own way in responding to my posts..

thank you so much ..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Yvonne,

thank you so much ..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Prabhu, yeah thats so true.. thank you.

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Chaco lover, thanks fr sharing yaa..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Suma,

thank you gal.. :)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hello Vinay, welcome here... and thank you.. pls keep coming..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Sid,

:) Thanks..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Ria,

get set for everything..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Sandy,

welcome here and thanks for sharing your views..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Angel, thanks alot gal..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hey angel, yeah .. family plays an important role in our lives..

well said yaa..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Jaunty,

thanks yaa.. yeah.. it surely makes..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Sunakshi, thanks ya,, am doing good ..) hw abt u ??

thanks alott..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi ANu,

very well said yaa.. thank you..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Bobby, i can understand ..) Thank you..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Vani, thanks for sharing ..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

HI ANya, thanks

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Dmanji, thanks for the nice one.. yeah.. its so true..

Being Pramoda... said...

hey Anya,

yaa,, i deleted it yaa.. thank you so much ..)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Mamayya, am sooo happy to have you here and to get such thoughts from you.. i cant explain it..

Pls be here often..

yeah.. intelligence must be used in a proper way, and thats where the real intelligence lies..

Thanks alott.. keep coming..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Hemanth,

**It also hurts me more now to enter into room for the first time as I come from home.........

i tooo felt the same many timesss!!! hehehehh.. cheer up..:)