Apr 26, 2011

Have you ever faced the same?

At times after having hell lot of discussions and debates on a single issue, we quite end up keeping our own argument high failing to get other person’s point or completely denying other person’s view without even trying to think about it!

Exactly such situations make us think whether I’m not getting their point of view or they are not getting mine!

Tough one to think and the toughest one to accept the fact that your point is not even considered, easily discarding the fact that you have also done the same with the other person’s point of view.

Only question remaining at the end would be “what now?”

There are two ways…

** Forget the other person’s view and go ahead with the belief that you are right.

** Forget your own view and go ahead with other person’s as a matter of respect.

Both of the above would be landing you in trouble or both of the choices make you come out with flying colors. Choice is completely yours and up to you.

I personally recommend to go ahead with the first if you are in the decision making seat or a team lead and proceed with the second if your view is differing with that of your superior’s. I think this will make the atmosphere better or at least this can stop the further degradation. At times this can be a wrong choice too but at the end we appreciate ourselves that we have given our hundred percent!

15 comments:

KParthasarathi said...

Sometimes the two views may not be mutually exclusive with some aspects of each wortthy of consideration.Very often the end in both views may be same with slight nuances in the means.
I agree where you are the deciding authority you do what you consider right being responsible and accountable for the same.

Rohini Prasanth said...

I disagree. How many times have we blamed somebody in the leading position for their wrong decisions, especially in the face of sound logic from other? same can be said of a follower too.

one should respect your lead, always. But what if you know for sure that your view/opinion/suggestion would be beneficial to the team?

of course, if nothing else works, stick to your guns, with the doubt always gnawing at you :)

good food for thought :)

Swapna Raghu Sanand said...

Hi Pramoda,

I also would go with Rohini's view. I think we need to listen to feedback particularly if it opposes our viewpoint - the solution is more important in the long run, more than perspective or the person who's giving it. But if you are absolutely sure you are doing the right thing, go ahead.

adithyasaravana said...

actually little bit confusing.... when we air our views , sometimes when it picks up an argument,there will be a middle path, some heartburn,but nevertheless i too have faced such situations.. and in the long run everything might seem unavoidable..( if not for better or worse.. still more confused ha ha )

Creativity!! said...

These Decisions Is Also Based of Probability of Success & Failure. Risk Factor Is High.

Bikramjit said...
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deeps said...

i guess, if we cant agree on the view the other holds, it s better to agree to disagree...

Bikramjit said...

I always listen to what others have to say and sometimes do take onboard what they say .. but in the end I do what I think i right .. it may be wrong but then thats how you learn .. at least we dont regret later in life and say WHAT IF..

My father use to say one thing all the time ..

SUNO SABKI KARO APNI ...

that keeps others also happy but end of the day If you think its right and work hard and give your best then thats what is important

Bikram's

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Partha uncle, thats thoughtful!..thanks for being here.:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Again, thoughtful Rohini..

Sticking to our own guns is imprtant when we believe and when we proceed with our own life and work..but i feel when we are in a team and thr are people who are responsible for our every move, i feel we need to think twice before doing so..

But, as always ur views were very thoughtful and straight forward ..:)

Thank you..

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Swapna, yeah i replied to that view above and i feel grt to have u here..;)

thanks,
Prams

Being Pramoda... said...

@ Aditya, not confused but thinking abt it..:)

thanks for being here..;)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Sahana, yeah ..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Deeps, at times it also needs our commitment..;) i feel so..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Bikramjt,

@SUNO SABKI KARO APNI ...

Well, depends on situation.:)