Apr 20, 2011

Understanding the status of your relationship…

When you want to understand the status of your relationship with somebody close to your heart, please read through.

No matter how close two people are to each other, it can always happen that they misjudge each other even if it is for a simple matter. It is not that that particular incident or that particular moment makes then do so; rather a series of happenings knowingly or unknowingly be the culprits. This can exclusively be related to the situations where one of them would not inform the other person some important news about himself.

Well, this can happen because many times when we think too much about formalities and about informing everybody without missing anyone, we often end up missing our own dudes.

If you are the culprit, and when you come to know that you have forgotten to inform him, at that very moment…

** If you feel guilty about not informing and still feel better to inform him the news at the very next moment, then the relation is in a very well structured state.

** If you get tensed that you have forgotten to inform him and if you are bit hesitant to inform the very next moment or if you want to take sometime to talk to him about it, then the relation is not in a very good fashion but this definitely shows your intension of working towards improving the relationship from your side.

** If you stay calm without any guilty feeling about it and do not want to think about informing him, then there is a serious issue both with you any with your relationship.

If you are the victim, and when you come to know that you are forgotten by your best pal, at that very moment…

** If you are surprised but still in a go and get him kind of situation, then everything is fine with your relationship.

** If you are worried but still feel happy about it and want to take sometime before talking to him about it, then you are really working towards improving the relationship.

** If you are furious and never want to talk about it with him until he speaks himself, then there is a serious issue.

Such incidents may not happen so often but when they happen we learn more about each other which obviously helps us in understanding each other better. Everyone shall understand that in either of the above mentioned cases, both are equally responsible; after all relations are meant for each other and are built by both persons.

22 comments:

Yamini Meduri said...

good one..!!! but i couldnot relate with the him here.. yet to find...still waiting..!!!

Vishwanath Seshadri said...

Nice one Prams... Gives a good food for introspection :)

Swapna Raghu Sanand said...

This is the kind of post that leaves you wondering and pondering about the deeper facets of your life and relationships...good one, Pramoda!

Sparkling Gem said...

U spoke what I feel...In relations trust, honesty and transparency go a lay way to decide the longevity of a relation......and u described it aptly :)

indrablog said...

Hi Pramoda,
You have brought out various factes of relationship. I think trust is what a relationship works on.

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Yamini, this is in the sense of general English where we use "he"..!!...

All the best for the exams..:)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hello Vish.. thank you :)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Swapna.. thanks fr the encouragement : nice to have u back here.

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Sparkling gem..

Thanks yaa : glad abt it..

Being Pramoda... said...

hi Indrashish, trust is indeed the one..:)

Vivek Chamoli said...

Hi

nice read, well said. .but what is this state called when one ask his/her partner or friend why he/she is sad. .which gets reflected in the conversation....but dont. want to reveal it..
unsecurity or no faith on other or its just a pass time affair.

do let me know my long un_answered question..

take care
ks :-)

Vivek Chamoli said...

Hi

nice read, well said. .but what is this state called when one ask his/her partner or friend why he/she is sad. .which gets reflected in the conversation....but dont. want to reveal it..
unsecurity or no faith on other or its just a pass time affair.

do let me know my long un_answered question..

take care
ks :-)

Bikramjit said...

relationships are very complicated :) but i feel that if the two peoplr who are in a relation treat each other in the same way as they themselves want to be treated , then it cna become a happy relationship...

and be honest ...

Bikram's

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Vivek, thank you..

Let me take some time to think and come back to u on your qsn..

Thanks for the food for thought ..)

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Bikramjit, thats well said..:)

lakshman said...

Hi Pramoda,

It is interesting.

LM

Yamini Meduri said...

di i know that this is the way we generally address someone while writing ...but still i want to meet the "Him" in the post..!!

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Babai..thanks :)

Being Pramoda... said...

Yamini.. haha..:)sweet of you :)

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Vivek said...

Thoughtful! Every person has his/her own 'Vritti' which makes him react to situations despite knowing the consequences...(an illustration from Mahabharata)Krishna went to meet Duryodhana in order to make him realize the consequence of the battle, however, Duryodhana replied " I am completely aware of the consequence, including the knowledge of which side I'll be(Winning/Losing) but my Vritti is such that it doesn't allow me to do what you are here for...I can't stand the Pandavas & will never surrender! " Please correct me if I'm wrong...

Being Pramoda... said...

Hi Vivek,
I didn't know abt this incident..but seems right!

Thanks for sharing..:)