Jan 3, 2012

Love, the way I understand it…

It starts with liking first of all;

Turns to craziness at some point;

Continues as love happily ever after;


The point to be noted down here is, in all cases it may turn to craziness, but it may not continue as love!

When two people decide to stay together as life partners, the very moment they do not really understand what they are going to do with their future. The ‘I love you’ they convey to each other may not mean it’s fullest meaning.

It starts with liking first of all.

The natural side effect of teenage moulds the guys and girls with certain expectations on the qualities they would love to have in the person with whom they would have to live their married life. The moment they meet the person with such qualities, may not all qualities but at least more than the respective cut off fixed in their minds, they start feeling the presence of their ‘someone’. And soon they would like to have the person around for their life time. So, it is started!

They convey the same to the person. I’m cutting short the story from the other person’s point of view as it involves many dynamics to decide. Once the person agrees, its love the next moment!

Turns to craziness at some point;

Another natural side effect of love, more in it’s starting stage, is the wish to spend more and more time with each other, if possible in person or otherwise over a call. Now that kick starts the addiction. As they spend time together more, speak to each other more, they naturally get to know each other’s true self more, provided none lies. Lie, is an integral part of the process which makes the two one. Not that they lie about themselves, they lie for each other. They lie for love, for their partner. Sometimes, with some sexy lies, the situation becomes emotionally romantic.

How small ever the good news is,

It feels like celebrating.


How crazy ever the deep wish is,

It feels like fulfilling.


How far ever the lovely partner is,

It feels like reaching.


How difficult ever the situations is,

It feels like scintillating.


Well, as I said earlier in the post, not all pairs get through the craziness stage. Its not a small story to reason it out. Everyone have their choices. But one main reason, I suppose, I’d like to mention here. Some people want to continue having the craziness around throughout the relationship. Some want it till some extent and later practicality comes in to the picture for them. When two people with opposite mindset in this particular sense come together, after the craziness stage, they tend to dislike the happenings and in turn each other. On the other hand, two people with similar mindset continue their relationship with better liking for each other day after the day. By the way, in some cases, though the two are with different mind sets they stay together, compromise or whatever, they stick to their guns in terms of love.

Continues as love happily ever after;

There comes a stupendous yet serious transition stage. Not just the side effect but the intended and very much required understanding of life, goals and family moulds the pair into couple. The earlier days’ addiction becomes matured wish to support the partner. The earlier type of lies slowly dies out, though the process of lying continues based on situation! This time they say they lie for their family. Fair enough, as long as it does not back-stab!

Meeting may not matter much,

But the togetherness does.


Waiting may not matter much,

But the well being does.


Pampering may not matter much,

But the planning does.


Kissing may not matter much,

But the romance does.


The verbs or the nouns coming in the second lines of the above stanzas take the highest priority. The ones in the first lines do not die out but continue adding the freshness to the relationship time to time. More chances are that the lacking of highest priority items often ruins the relationship than not taking efforts to bring in freshness. People often complain that they are not being loved as much as they were during the start of the relationship. This happens because the craziness (of love) is mistaken or misunderstood as love and they did expect it to be there at every stage of love life.

That’s it from my side as of now on this topic.

Like, go crazy, love and keep it up! Life and love are beautiful. The moment they compete with each other, you can not ask for more!

9 comments:

Jack said...

Pramoda,

WOW! What analysis of each stage! And true to a large extent. I am sure you will reach love all the time stage easily.

Take care

sajjapraveenchowdary said...

Nice One..

Ed Pilolla said...

i had a theology teacher in high school, who was more of a philosophy teacher for sure, and he would say that it is more important to like our future mate than love them and that's becuz one day we will be out of love with them, and then it's essential that we like them for who they are.
great post.

♫♪♥PhilO♥♪♫ said...

From just a mere liking, the forms it takes :)

Chintan Gupta said...

It is a process indeed, one phase to another, to another and yet another....discovery at each step...

Happy 2012 :)

BragonDorn said...

beautiful writings :)

kaykuala said...

Pramoda,
You like, you love and you leave. Leaving is necessary for short spells as 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' But for heaven's sake leaving permanently is a disaster.It happens though!

Hank

Ellen said...

Beautiful thoughts. Indeed. I hope the new year opened with blessings aplenty for you and your loved ones. May God bless you with all that is best and good in life.

Happy New Yea, Prams! :-)

the.orchestra.of.life said...

"The moment they compete with each other, you can not ask for more!" .... Touche´ :)