The Bitter Truth... Take Home #220

The best way to convey the bitter truth is to be open and honest to the point.

Be doubly inspired… Take Home #219

Be doubly inspired when your capabilities are being doubted. You may not get any better chance to prove yourself.

Take achievement as an inspiration !

Get inspiration from what people have achieved and detach yourself from any kind of emotional attachment with the achievers. You never know when your favourite star is going to commit such a deed after knowing which you would get disturbed.

There have been many cases in the recent years which made me recollect what once someone mentioned to school children in his/her speech:

Get inspired from the people who are dead; if you choose the ones who are alive, you might get disturbed when they commit any wrong deed.

Well, I agree and disagree to the above. I agree because it’s true to its core. And I disagree because we shall have a way out such that we can take inspiration from the living beings who are tremendously effective in making us think that we can achieve too.

I thought about it and wanted to put forward the below:

Get inspiration from what people have achieved and detach yourself from any kind of emotional attachment with the achievers.

Anyone who want to or have to make a recovery from as danger disease as cancer, nothing else can take over as best options than the autobiography of Lance Armstrong.

Anyone who wishes to build an inspiring career by captivating whole show for a quite longer while, ‘Tiger’ woods, the master golfer’s professional career history would be the best one to know about.

Anyone who chooses not to sit back after losing both the legs and not just that, who would like to further perform on the world’s largest stage, Oscar Pistorius’ life is the best suitable example. 

And so on!

People, for whom the crowds have gone crazy, have gone crazy and smashed a billion hearts with hard confessions. But that does not mean that one should not look at the inspiring living beings at all. Better be inspired of what people have achieved and how they did it. Most importantly better be detached from emotional attachment which we often succumb to, with the respective achiever or with his name for that matter.

Yes, it cannot be overruled that the people who are taken as an inspiration by many shall be doubly careful of their own deeds. Otherwise, ultimately they are responsible in case of any negative notion in the society across the globe.

Well, I'm not still turning my face from the champions mentioned above. They still and continue to inspire me for what they have achieved.

Face-off with rejection… Take Home #218

To learn how to handle the rejection in a better way, you must first be welcoming the rejection. Do things in your way and be open for a face-off.

First impressions… Take Home #217

Get first impressions but try to hang on for a while in expressing them. You may have to disagree with yourself in the due course of time. Disagreeing with your inner self is much easier than disagreeing with your own self which you had already expressed to someone.

Small world and big dreams!

Small world and big dreams! Nothing wrong in it. You never know. For that matter, no one knows which dream can make your world big; big enough that every dream appears small.

Keep dreaming; keep conquering.

Think big. Dream big. Bag big.

Be loved!

Without you,

It’s not easy to be myself;

Without you,

It’s not difficult either.

Keep loving.

Be loved.

Mistakes happen, but… Take Home #216

Mistakes happen but that’s not the end. The real way to correct them is to convert them into a new beginning for a better living.

Btw, beware if no mistakes are happening.

Be on the job... Take Home #215

When you stay irritated or hopeless, it's even easier for your competitors to defeat you. Be in good hope, with positive smile and on your mark, to win. Always be on the job to be the best competitor. Win and loss anyway come and go.

Speak, do not shout... Take Home #214

When you shout, you are left to shout all alone, most of the times; but when you speak, some people choose to speak up for you, most of the times.

Question, for a better life!

Questions cannot always be good but questioning is. Question, for a better society and life!

Almost everyone, in life, has to face two situations. One, to ask questions and two, to answer questions. It’s not easy to pass through either of them. But there is a little edge of advantage in facing the situation of asking questions rather than facing the situation of answering them. Well, questions or answers may or may not be satisfying but your understanding of the person who asks or answers gets better every time.  

Anyway, let’s gear up to be up to the mark to do what we have to do.

Face the frankness…

Facing the frankness is a good deal. Avoiding facing the frankness of people is not a good deed. Better, face it. Strive to win it. You will be the change, then.

By the way, to face the frankness, one needs to have the guts to come in front of it on the first front and thereafter one’s own ethics take over either to come out winning it or to get out of it to continue avoiding it.

Wish, and hence the will… Take Home #213

An employer who can look through what an employee would have gone through to get a work done is the employer of all the time.

Very ideal, but not impossible! All needed is the wish and hence the will.

Marriage and Individuality...

As the couple evolve in marriage, individuals shall not die.

A right choice?

As money, reputation and position etc are the professional choices, recognition and respect are the personal choices. Choosing either of them alone may be a right pick but not the realistic pick.

Endure in life… Take Home #211

Life is not just about living; rather, it’s about enduring; enduring, especially through the tough times.

Acknowledge the circumstances… Take Home #210

Behind every success there stay at least some circumstances that turned into favour at some or the other point of time. Give them the due respect by acknowledging.

Keep asking questions… Take Home #209

Some questions cannot be answered. Some answers cannot be said.

Still, keep asking questions. At times you may incept the idea of asking questions in those people who can but don’t ask. Also, you may make the people, who do not or cannot answer questions, answer themselves or at least start thinking of answering themselves.

Leader, all by his own… Take Home #208

Anyone can become a leader by leading the crowd who are following the leader. But he who leads the crowd to become the leader all by his own inspires more.

Life is full of diversity!

Never get emotionally connected to anything in this world in such a way that it becomes everything for you. Life is full of diversity. If not one, another but give your best to get/retain the one. You shall be ready to take various opportunities and bombard at the door of success.

PS: This is one of the most important things I’ve learnt from my dad. This learning has ignited a new perspective of life in me. Thanks to him.

Daily dose of inspiration… Take Home #207

Having the team leader in near reach makes work easy going. More than that, it gives the daily dose of inspiration needed.

PS: Yes, provided he is inspirational and easy to work with.

Last ounce of hope… Take Home #206

Last ounce of hope you have from deep within shall be the last try before you accept the defeat. Be hopeful, always. Hope alone does not get you the success but it defines your wish to get succeeded.

Twenty-Thirteen!

The count goes on. Day after the day. Year after the year. It's been almost twenty years that I've started identifying the joy of the New Year's eve. 

Earlier five years went by exchanging the greeting cards with the similarly appearing small hands and innocent smiles. Later five years weren't that much eventful in terms of greeting card exchanges but they went by just face to face wishing with friends and teachers. Later to that was the starting phase of actually experiencing the joyful celebrations on the new year's eve both at Intermediate and Engineering college hostels amidst huge circle of my friends. Post graduation at IITs, especially at Delhi, did not allow us to chill out in the chilling weather, but it was all about exchanging messages over mobiles and of course through the then 'orkut. Recent most years have gone by looking at the wall of Facebook for the wishes from friends as well as by blogging on the first and last days of the year. 

That's the story of new year eves so far. I'd wish to see the future trends in welcoming new year in the coming years.

After saying all that I've just remembered that I've not yet wished you on this eve-2013.

"Wish you all a happy and eventful year ahead"

New year celebrations have gone down a little this year because of all that has happened towards the end of the last year at the center of the national capital. Hope some improvement happens. 

I sign off here in hope of seeing less crime rate against women in the most culture rich country, our India, in this year.

Year Ender’2012 and Post Number: 800

On a very specific night in a year, a year appears too short to live and to experience. That’s undoubtedly the night of December 31^st. January to December flows so flawlessly every year that no clock of the world can be proved wrong unless the batteries are down. Even if the clocks are stopped from working, the natural clock, the sun and moon cycle, never let us miss the count of the seasons of a year.

2012 has been very eventful as far as I’m concerned. Probably, the one that is of this sort in last five years! It’s been a very good mix which is the main reason why I loved it very much. Learning from personal and professional lives is the treasure I would like to carry proudly to the next year.

Love work;

Love people;

Live the fullest;

Learn your best.

As far as the blog is concerned, I’ve had few of the major milestones one being this post itself as the 800^th post. Writing has been my best of the best hobbies ever since I’ve started this blog. Truth to be told, readers are the best encouragement. Thanks to everyone who have been around.

Special mention to Jack uncle for reading every post of mine and for the apt comments. I owe a lot to you. KP uncle, I’ve been missing you; hope you are doing fine. All my college friends, blogger friends, colleagues who read this and wish me, thank you so much to you too for being there.

Farewell 2012.

Looking forward for the next year!

Sick, sexually!

The heinous act by the six shameless rapists has stuck the country alarmingly in the later part of the December this year. In a moving bus, beating up a man, dragging his female friend to the back seat of the bus, amidst the country capital, sexually and physically assaulting her in such a way that cannot be written so easily here, is all done by the citizens of this country, our very own.

Enough has been written in national news papers and telecasted on national television channels since fortnight on this incident. Hence I take no time in jumping to the later part of this post.

Is it for the first time that we are witnessing the tsunami of grief, thrashing anger, candle light vigils, fearless protests and back-firing Indian youth in the centre of the national capital? Actually no, but yes in terms of the way all this has happened and the intensity that has been shown this time round across the nation and globe! People have been connected not by the leaders but by the leading social-networking sites. Government having no clue about the upcoming protests has handled the situation less convincingly but the protestants themselves have been convincing enough that sooner it has become contagious across the country’s main cities. Leading ladies from various Indian cities have come out on to roads and lead the rallies, whereas some others have spoken for every victim so far on the TV channels. Men, have taken their part too and some men especially have become so expressive and emotional that they have been sorry for being men! Well, man, no need to be sorry that you are a man. Just be the man a woman wants to   have than the one whom she has to have. That itself is more than respecting a woman.

One in around six hundred rape cases of the year (only the ones which could enter the count) has finally come under the surveillance and seen the treatment. I would appreciate every effort that the guys have put in starting from air flowing the victim to Singapore, getting back the dead woman in a charted flight, receiving the dead body early in the airport after half an hour’s wait, cremating her body without notice to the masses, and now finally offering her family a job in state government along with up to rupees thirty five lakhs in cash. That’s enough effort but fell just short from saving the girl’s life. Not that all that is done in this case is incorrect or insufficient but the question is if such similar treatment will be shown in all such cases or if some harsh treatment will be given to the culprits, who are sick mentally and sexually. I think the government is working hard to frame it out well, at least for now to get the masses back to work from holding the placards and pushing away the slogans. Hope some stricter laws get enforced henceforth.

Law can change the way the victim feels about the incident but it can hardly gives her chance to recover back to the normalcy, which probably she can never do in her life time. One rape victim spoke on a TV channels who said, when in the morning you are confident in handling out the people around you, at night you have to be alone in the darkness where you feel like having sixteen foreign hands scrolling around you, you alone have to pass the time then. That one statement has spoken volumes to me that the normalcy is gone too along with the rest that goes in vain after one such incident.

He who commits the accident is punished and he who is met with the accident is free from law. But in this special accident case, who commits this might undergo the punishment as per the sections of the law books, does not matter after how long or for how long, but the one who is the victim of this type of accident is put into punishment cell from the next moment and for all of her life, perhaps. Irony or destiny! But she has to undergo this.

And, why?

All because of the way we, the society, see the incident. You can legally ditch the person whom you have married but you cannot escape the weird looks when a stranger, although only for those moments, checks you through. Getting raped is a big crime? And raping someone, an unknown one, an innocent one, is not such a crime that the youth and women welfare associations have to come on roads to ensure the punishment such people deserve! There is no wrong that one has done when she is raped. At least, it’s not a greater misfortune than having raped someone. Women have to carry their own fighting spirit along with them all the time. One may not escape it completely but combating is important too. Today I read that henceforth woman has every right to kill the person who is attacking her. I thought, if women have been waiting for this rule to pass that they can kill him. Had it been possible everyone would have.

This time round, many big people have shouted on punishing the culprits. Would they have done the same had the culprits been from rich, politician or celebrity families? Years back when in Andhra Pradesh, one movie actress got brutally gang raped and murdered by a ‘big’ family’s son and his friends, no one spoke for the lady. Why now? Is it just because this time round the culprits are unknown vibrant from the capital, and that the ‘big’ ones have no impact on their careers by doing so? May be or may not be, but one thing is for sure. Not every time a rape occurs the reaction is same or even comparable. Some acquire the attentions through the none other than ‘media’. I appreciate media’s work in this regard. But some other victims cry in dark, stay in mood swings all over their lives thinking about the same moments.

Good that the girl’s identity this time round has been kept secret. People have called her “Nirbhaya’ or ‘Damini’, symbolizing her traits that she showed after the incident. Brave girl has fought for her life throughout her tenure in her last days. Her answers to the questions of police in writing are said to be the crucial ones. When the whole nation can speak for her, her last written words are still the major companions of her to see the end of the culprits.

Capital punishment is of course not the option I’m looking for, as far as I’m concerned, seriously. One has to target the long term changes in the way the society thinks. If guys cannot take the short frocks girls wear and if for now they have to be avoided or have to be conscious, a girls has to be. I’m not denying the fact that every girl has her own rights about her own body but in the present scenario being in everyone’s own limits shall be the best option to choose. There is an argument that sarees, the part and parcel of Indian culture, too can cause the inevitably evil. But somehow I too feel conservative on this topic. The Indian culture is mixed up with every other culture of the world now. There is a huge transition that’s going on and there is no loss in being careful, little more careful, in the way one make herself appear.

If the fear of death punishment can alone set the things straight, there should not have been any murderers. But they are there. If long term push into jail can stop a man from being bad to a woman, there should not have been any cases found in other countries of the world where rape is taken as a serious crime. All that matters is the way a man’s mind thinks, the way it wants or the way it gets probed to do the worst at times. Lack of education on sex, respecting woman, brought up and friends’ circle come out to be the main ones behind a man’s such cruelty. I feel, one generation has to suffer and that we are in suffering mode now. If we really want our next generations to be safe from all such disheartening incidents, children of this generation shall be targeted for the best possible brought up. In schools, sex education must be the part of syllabus. Respecting girls and woman shall be incepted into them by the women at home, it could the mother or it could be the sister. Boys shall be observed closely in the regards of their actions towards the other gender. Education itself is not in good reach in India for the millions of people and proper sex education might appear very far away in this scenario. But we neither have option, nor the government too. Punishment could be helpful at this stage but to achieve the long term goal ‘education to everyone’ must be revolutionized and along with that the other but important ‘human values’ too.

We can also think of having special police personal to solve the women cases similar to the special courts and the fast tract schemes. Like the way NSGs are created a special security force can be created and I hope I’m not asking for too much. In a way, somewhere in corner of my mind, asking for this makes me feel weak as if women are really weak. May be, we are, for now.

Chemical castration is being talked about too. But, just in case, if this particular thing reverse swings and a man changes from having less sexual activity to have physiological disorders, that might prove further worst to the country and society. In all the countries wherever it’s in practice as on date, those countries are small ones and are with controllable population. But in India, if such thing comes into practice, there could be many people who can fool out the rules by all means. But nothing concrete can be said now, at the moment. Let’s hope for the best, a better India, for women.